You must be struggling, your life has been turned upside down only a short few months ago this was you. Typing this letter preparing for the future trying to guess what you’d need to hear. Now you have that baby we waited for so long. The one we wished for and if what they say is true it is nothing like we imagined.

Now we have this little perfect thing that needs someone to care for it. We drove ourselves insane trying to prepare ourselves with every article and blog we could find. None of it prepared us for this. At least that’s what I’m guessing.

Don’t worry though momma, you got this no matter what our mind tells us. We got this. Take a deep breath, cry if you need to, take another deep breath. Now pick that little baby up rock them even when others tell you they need to learn self soothing that’s not us. We understand that the need to be held, to be rocked, to be loved. Yes it might lead to sleepless nights for us. We understood that from the beginning. Yes it gets stressful, yes we would love to be sleeping, but how could we sleep when the little one we love so much is crying in the next room. That self soothing is bullshit, we’ve said that from the beginning. I wonder if we’re still saying that now. I’m guessing we are knowing how stubborn we are, we’re definitely saying that. We’re gonna be okay momma, we’ve made it through a lot. We can make it through sleepless nights just so our little one is comfortable.

The laundry may be pilling up and the dishes and it’s getting overwhelming I know it is. Take another deep breath, maybe two, your okay. You can get it done. One step at a time, three dishes at a time, a load at a time. You can do it. No one blames you, you’re adjusting. You can get it done. You’ve got this momma.

That baby doesn’t care about the piles of laundry and the dishes. They care about you. They love you momma. You got this momma. We got this momma.